As a little girl I can recall my first experience with body shaming. I was really small for my age and had to have my school uniform specially made. I was at a school for girls and the older students in grade 7 & 8 would want to pick me up and carry me around because they could. At the time it was seen as sweet and maternal, but when you are in the middle of a game of fort or skipping and a taller person simply picks you up, it’s somewhat upsetting. Cover it up with “Isn’t she sweet” or “You are so tiny” and somehow it’s acceptable. I grew up being called shorty and shrimp. I really believe that is the basis behind my commitment to maintaining an excellent level of fitness as an adult.
I determined that I would never be tall – that was beyond my control, but I could certainly be strong. I am extremely fit and healthy and am not in the slightest way anorexic. I have worked hard to look like this and am proud of my body. I work out with a trainer twice a week, and model healthy eating habits for my boys. I follow the Kymberly Snyder Beauty Detox nutritional plan, adding chicken and other meat protein along the way (as I really like it in my diet). Dog walks are my cardio and I really thrive on being active in the great outdoors with my family. From skiing in Banff Alberta to snorkelling and lobster diving in the Florida Keys, when you are a mom your kids keep you in sports gear.
I will never be the curvy girl in the room, my genes won’t permit it, but I am a woman who has every right to look the way I do. Real women have curves but leaner ones are no less women because of our DNA. We need to change the conversation. Shaming strangers is for cowards. We need to make smart choices when speaking out, not reactive or defensive ones. We are most critical of ourselves and so judgemental in our attempts to accept our own bodies. Non-judgmental acceptance is to truly embrace your situation before you decide how to act. Mindfulness would teach us, the sooner we accept our reality, the better.